Satan's most frequent and consistent attack is directed against our minds. Thoughts are powerful! The attack often starts very early in life. If a child is abused, lies from the enemy appear in the thoughts saying the child deserves it or is not worth anything to anyone.
If parents do not reflect the character of God to their children, the children will project all their shortcomings on to God. For instance, if one or more parents is cold, lacking in emotion, rigid and constantly preoccupied with other things, the child will see God as lacking compassion, unloving and not there for them. The enemy will encourage these perceptions.
Many bring a lot of bad baggage along with them into adulthood from their childhood. In many cases, the enemy already has claims upon parents and even grandparents. Now the enemy focuses on the children, because he knows that the consequences of family sins can make the children vulnerable to similar attacks.
Many adults believe the enemy's lies about themselves for years. Often there are strongholds of low self-esteem and self-hatred. Many adults are full of anger, bitterness and unforgiveness. Often in their childhood they have been hurt deeply by someone. I remember being held captive by such anger as a result of being abandoned as a child by my Dad. The memories can be so painful that they constantly stir up anger, bitterness and resentment. His goal is to make it difficult to forgive.
What is a person to do when their mind has been under attack for such a long time?
It is extremely important to correct the wrong perceptions about God, who He is and how much He loves you. Make sure your thoughts line up with the Word. “For as a man thinks in his heart, so is he.” Proverbs 23:7
It is equally important to find out what God says about you. You need to know your true identity according to the Word of God. The enemy has been distorting and lying about you, so that you have a false perception of yourself.
Paul tells us in 2 Corinthians 10:5 to "take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ." It is imperative that you fill your mind with TRUTH to counteract the lies.
Paul also tells us in Philippians 4:8, "Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honorable, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things."
A true relationship with God comes from having a consistent prayer life. God has given us the Holy Spirit to teach us how to pray. He has given us His Word full of promises to claim. He has given us all things that pertain to life and godliness. "And be renewed in the spirit of your mind." Ephesians 4:23